Questioning the norms

What? She is not married yet? But she is 30!

Yes. It in fact is 2021 and we still hear such remarks. Even I thought we established the fact that Marriage and Kids are not for everyone but clearly, the message is received but not processed (accepted) completely yet. In an era where people are screaming their throats out about equality, feminism, and rewriting what's considered "normal", we still ponder upon why not all surrendered to the age-old customs of marriage and having kids. Why is it so hard for people to accept it's a person's choice if they want to share their life or not either with another person and even if they do want to it is up to them when in their lives they want to do so?

As parents or guardians, it is one's responsibility to educate their kids about such life events and the pros and cons of having them at a certain age. But the duty ends there. Now it is the kid's choice on how to make use of this information. Just because you lived a certain way and were successful does not mean you automatically gained the privilege to lecture everyone on "Decision-making 101."

What you accept is that everyone is unique yet you expect everyone to behave in a similar fashion when it comes to life events. Establish a career, get married, and have kids between 20-30. Isn't it asking too much from only one decade while you can live upto 7 of them? Yes, I understand the biological clock is a thing but so is mental health, and the pressure that family and peers force on you is beyond measure and truth be told - painstakingly overwhelming to handle.

It is not important to marry but it is to marry the right one for you. Having kids is good but having a plan to raise them with quality is even more vital.

I wish we move towards a world that does not judge you on your marital status or if you are a member of the parenthood club but on the kind of person you are and what value add you bring to the table. If there is something we all should question, it should be how we are making this world a better place to live for our families and communities.