Wings Vs Ropes

How judgy are you? Seriously? Have you ever asked yourself that question? I am not questioning those fun moments you had with your friends and family while you playfully passed a comment or two about your colleague or your neighbor next door.  I am asking you how many times have you frowned upon an idea of someone's marriage or their choice of career or simply their lifestyle.

We all have certain norms in our head about a 'Perfect lifestyle'. A lot of these have been laid down by how we were brought up and how our parents have fed our minds with whats right and whats wrong. We might have grown out of some and embraced a few unorthodox practices but have we opened up to a completely transformed modern society?

                                     

True that our backgrounds influence us a lot, but its highly recommended to draw a line somewhere. Just because your mom, grand-mom and your great grand-mom are successful at being homemakers, you are not expected to be one. Similarly you coming from a family of doctors shouldn't destroy the dream of yours of being a lawyer. All I am trying to say is that have a mind of oneself. No matter what your family stands for, you try to stand for yourself.

What if one is not ready to say goodbye to the family they are born in to move in with their in laws? What if marriage is not their cup of tea in the first place? What if a person is a wanderer and all he/she want is to fall in love again and again (with people or places) and not have just one stop or a stable life? Is it still considered a passion similar to that of owning a company or become a successful musician? I can bet my life, majority doesn't approve of it. Why you ask? You know the answer!

But who are we to decide how a person should live? Why do we have phases that everyone is expected to follow? To have a decorum? When the world is not even near perfect and the crime rate is so high up why are we bothered about individuals who are not harming or hurting anyone but just chose their path a little different from others? Are we jealous? That they might enjoy the fruits of freedom (of choosing the life they wanted) while we are tangled in the 'societal expectations'? Is it a battle between the wings and ropes? The wings they are trying to grow and the ropes we are unable to let go. No matter what one might think, we know where the happiness lies. But just to satisfy one's ego we end up calling them names, making fun of them and worse.. tag them 'ruined'.



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