The 'Reason' behind Adultery

There are innumerable reasons why a person might commit adultery. You and your other-half might be in a happy marriage and never understand why someone ended up cheating on their spouse, but what about those marriages which are not as happy as yours? You can suggest divorce as a way out of those unhappy relationships but how practical is that solution to someone with kids (where raising a child in broken families is not a choice) or even more importantly someone who lives in a conservative society? 

When a man or woman is married in a country like India, where majority are arranged marriages, they MIGHT not end up falling in love with each other. It doesn't specifically mean that only the arranged marriage couples end up in adultery but its one considerable reason. Even couples who married after falling in love could grow out of each other after a few years. If that 'spark' died between them, there is a very good reason they might try to search for it somewhere else, which makes me think that "Marriage is not for everyone."



Once you are in your 20's or 30's, for some unfortunate souls even early, the parents and more specifically the society they live in would start pushing them to find 'the one' and get legally bound to them forever! For some humans, it might be an impossible task. They still do it, again for the sake of the world and not for them. Don't you think when a person haven't signed up for a marriage willingly but for the sake of others, there is a very good chance that he/she might not end up happy with the decision they 'had to make to satisfy others?'  

What if whoever they thought 'the one' proves not to be 'the one'? What if there is no 'the one'? What if he/she is not someone who is made for a family to begin with. Take Mahatma Gandhi or Elon Musk for example. The reason for their existence was different from being a happy family man. There are people who shaped this world into what it is today and they all did not have healthy marriages. I am not trying to support adultery, infact I hate to see a family ruined 'coz one of them gave up on the other but I strongly feel that we humans don't want to hurt someone out of the blue. We have reasons. We always do. 

Maybe its time we stop judging people who committed adultery and start digging the reason behind it and put an end to those reasons.

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